Topic 1: Conflict in Our Culture
Directions: In a comment, respond to one of the prompts below in 300+ typed words. Also be sure to respond to a classmate's comment so that we can keep our classroom conversation going.
Option 1: Most people have witnessed a friendship fall apart, a family divide, or a global tragedy that spawns feuds that last for several decades. Where do you think hatred begins? What measures do you think can be taken to resolve arguments and alleviate hatred? Cite a feud you have witnessed as evidence to support your argument.
Option 2: In his poem "Mending Wall," Robert Frost repeats the old adage "good fences make good neighbors." The characters in the poem have a stone wall--a literal boundary--between their homes. What types of boundaries do you think need to exist to maintain healthy relationships? Cite examples from your friendships and your relationships with family members to support your argument.
Be sure to answer all parts of the question fully. Your comment/response to my prompt should be 300+ words. Your comment/response to a friend should be 50+ words. Your blog entries must be completed by 11:59 pm on October 7, 2012.
did i have to write something?
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DeleteYou simply need to choose one of the 300 word open-ended prompts and respond. You have the choice of responding to Option 1 or Option 2. Happy writing!
when are you making this due?
ReplyDeleteHi Ian,
DeleteThis assignment is still at the date written above in the original post. I simply expected you to spend some part of today's lab time crafting your response. Happy writing!
will i lose points if its under 300 words
ReplyDeleteHi Chase,
DeleteThe assignment does specify a word minimum. You will need to meet that word minimum in order to receive full credit. The reason that the word count should be 300 is that each response should be roughly three paragraphs. Happy writing!
Are we going to have more class time to do this or is the rest going to be at home or on our spare time?
DeleteThree weeks or so my family got into a big fight and I’m no longer aloud to talk to half of my family. It is something hard to deal with but part of life. This is where I believe hatred begins. I think that hatred is caused from family or friends fighting when it can be avoided. If people talked about how they felt and didn’t let things build up inside them things would be better. Not only does hatred stay within you but it takes a lot of time to get the good that you had back. Sometimes you don’t even get the good things back. In life you’re going to face really hard times and the only things you can do is look forward and move on, forget about the past and try to put all the fights and the bad things in your past. I hope along the way people realize that life is too short to fight and have hatred all the time. Everything would be better in life if we didn’t have hatred. Not only am I part of this family hatred but it bothers me knowing that there are other ways to solve problems then to fight about it.
ReplyDeleteTherefore if you have a problem of something isn’t going the right way be the bigger person and figure out the right way to solve the problem instead of fighting. People sometimes take things a bit too far and think fighting will make things better but in the end it only makes things worse. It causes more stress and aggravation on people. A couple years ago there was a family fight and unfortunately there was hatred between lots of family members for at least a year. Until my great grandmother passed away and everyone was brought together and they realized it wasn’t the right thing. They realized that family should always be there for each other no matter how rough things get. In conclusion I feel this is how hatred is started.
Hi Lex,
Deletei can completely relate to this; my family has serious problems with everyone.For example, my mom tries to get away from the family by moving far and not giving them our address. it's hard for me to stand on her side because her and my grandpa have a lot of conflict between eachother. Me and my grandpa have a great bond, and I cant really talk to anymore. So I no longer talk to him anymore really because of the conflict between my family that nothing to do with me.
Nice job, Alexis. You bravely discussed this very important topic in relation to your own family. I am happy to hear that you recognize how pointless hatred is and how much of a toll it takes on relationships and one's own life. This was a very thoughtful response. A.
Deletedo you know the homework for tonight is it a paragraph of our conflict??
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ReplyDeleteBoundaries are limits and marking off dividing lines. To maintain a healthy relationships people need to have certain boundaries. Not too much that relationships will drift apart but some are necessary. Most people will probably experience this in their lifetime and their friends will turn on them. Some boundaries are needed like, not telling everything about yourself because you never know the results of it. By this I actually mean don't tell someone everything because one someone might get mad at you and spill all your secrets.
ReplyDeleteThe purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves. for example a boundary is to be able to tell someone that they aren't acting the right way. We have the right to be able to protect ourselves and not let other people run over us. We need to take the responsibility of standing up for ourselves because if we don't then people will treat us like we're nothing. If we let this happen even once that gives the people that are doing this courage to keep doing it. This is why people need to set off boundaries.
We go through life with so many walls being put up. This can really relate to my life. I don't really share my personal life with my friends, not even my closest friends I have known forever. The reason for this is because i'm not that type of person and I believe that boundaries are needed. The people that really know what my life is like is my family basically because they go through the same experiences I do. I also have some fences with my family but the one I tell most things to is my sister because I just feel like i can tell her anything. Either way I keep most thing to myself.
Hi Pamela,
DeleteJust copy/paste this into the Period 3 blog and you'll be all set. Thanks!
Sincerely,
Ms. Orlowsky
Pamela, you have done a great job of capturing the neccessity of metaphorical boundaries. It is important to have boundaries for our own protection; I am inclined to agree with you that we cannot simply allow everyone we meet to have unrestricted access to our lives. Nice work.
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ReplyDeleteIt is amazing how things can work out and how time can change people. My most recent experience with friends falling apart then suddenly coming back together in a strange, weird, crazy way just happened within the last two months. It all started when my sister reconnected with my dad’s ex best friend’s son on Facebook. You see, for many years my father and my mother were such close friends with his parents that they were even in each other’s weddings back in the day. I remember that we used to call them our aunt and uncle too. About eight years ago, something happened at my brother’s tenth or eleventh birthday party and our parents stopped talking all of a sudden. Nobody even knew what exactly caused us to fall apart so fast, it just kind of happened. We stopped hanging out, going to each other’s birthday parties, and spending Christmas as well as other holidays together.
ReplyDeleteAbout a year ago my sister friend requested our old family friend on Facebook. Even though they haven’t seen each other or talked in years they started chatting online. They shared memories, pictures of them being babies at the same time, and stories of our families being together. Both of them started getting along really well and started becoming attracted to each other. Then, one day he asked my sister to go on a bowling date and so of course they went! They had a blast hanging out and couldn’t resist hanging out again and to continue talking to each other. One day, he came over our house and went on the boat with our family. He was daddy approved and he liked my dad. It was perfect. That night his dad and mother came over to pick him up and our parents were all talking for over an hour. When they left, I overheard my mom ask my dad, “What was it like to talk to him again after so many years? Was it awkward?” My dad replied, “No it wasn’t awkward, it was like nothing ever happened.”
I wouldn’t say this situation is hatred, but it was a problem between our families of not communicating and it wasn’t resolved. Our parent’s should have figured out and resolved this problem at the time of the birthday party by talking about it and fixing it. Instead of doing this, they ignored it and drifted apart. If people took the time to discuss problems in a calm way everyone would learn to work things out. Thanks to my sister’s friend request to that boy on Facebook, they are now currently boyfriend and girlfriend and my dad talks to his best man again.
P.S. I am not a robot so stop asking me.
I thought you were a robot aha.. This is a nice and good price of writing:) I wouldn't change a thing about it.. See ya Monday
DeleteTyler I really enjoyed reading this. I think you did a wonderful job on writing this. You explained it very well. I can relate to this because I've had the same thing happen before. I feel that you answered every part well and told the events well. Good job on this!
DeleteWhat a hopeful story, Tyler! I enjoyed reading this, and I am happy to see that your families are once again a part of each other's lives. I think you are absolutely right: communication is key when working through tough times with those who are close to you. Nice job. A.
DeleteHatred is such a strong word to use. I wouldn’t say that there has ever been hatred between anyone. If there is hatred every between two people I think things were taken way too far. I can understand that there has been times when people fight and don’t get along. That doesn’t mean that there is hatred between those people. Not everyone feels the same way about hatred and where it begins. I think that hatred starts when there is a huge problem and someone might say something really mean that stays with you the rest of your life. I’ve seen many people get into fights and then like 2 weeks or so goes by and they find a way to resolve their problem and move on from it. I feel that there are many different ways to deal with problems like this. It may not always be easy but most of the time there is a solution to the problem. Not many people think that there is a solution because they tend to get really mad and hold a grudge. Usually when people fight it is mostly over something stupid and simple to fix. If people didn’t take things so far they wouldn’t have hatred. They would also have less stress.
ReplyDeleteEveryone can fix their problems no matter what it is. It shouldn't take something tragic to happen for people to realize that it isn't the right thing to hate someone or to hold grudges. Most of the time people end up regretting what happened. Therefore if you just talk and solve your problem there can’t be hatred between the people. You can just move on and put it in the past and forget that it ever happened. Everyone handles this differently. This is how I feel about hatred.
Ian this is an excellent example of hatred. I think this was a great essay but I think you should make it a little longer though but you did a great job. Keep up the good work and hopefully you don’t have any hatred cause that’s not good. Well see you later.
DeleteIan, this response loses focus a bit, and you put your finger in the pie of several different topics. In an effort to make your next response stronger, please consider the answer to each individual question. I want to let you know that I like one of the points you touched upon; I agree that it should not take a tragic event to bring people together after an extended period of hatred. I think this happens all too often, and I feel that people should focus on coming to their senses while lives can still be repaired. Good point.
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ReplyDeleteThere is hate in every family or relationship but love always comes in the end of that fight or conflict. I have an experience of living through a conflict which caused hatred. What caused my hatred was when I got taken away when I was about nine to live with my Grandma. The first Grandma I lived with was on my dad’s side and she changed my thoughts and beliefs on a lot. She changed my religion to atheist, I also stopped eating meat when I lived with her, and she told me a lot of lies about my mom that I believed which cause me to be mad at her. After a couple of months I moved in with my mom’s mom. My Nan was the one that answered majority of my questions about my mom. I also lived right down the street from my brother but we didn’t get to see each other because of his Grandma. We only saw each other during my Mom’s visitations with us.
When I lived with my Nan I acted up a lot in school. I think that was because I didn’t have a mom or dad like most kids did and I was just upset and wanted attention. I use to get detention a lot, lunch detention, and I even got oss in fourth grade. So my Nan got me counseling to express my hatred and thoughts. Which helped make me happy for a while until I had to move back in with my mom, I’m not going to lie I was kind of scared to move back in with her because, of the stories my grandma told me. We all moved in together when I was in sixth grade and my brother was in fourth.
We all took family counseling so we could all share are feelings and get close together again since we haven’t all lived with each other for about two years. We did well for about the first year but then my brother had bad anger problems and it was all about him all the time. So I guess that was about the time I started acting up again in School so I could get some attention at home, I was so angry that my brother was the one that always got the attention. I think hatred comes from the inside of everyone’s own thoughts or how they are treated. Hatred isn’t a good thing but sometimes it brings a family closer and they all start to love each other like how my family is now, we still have our fights and arguments but in the end we all love each other.
I have to say that this seem liked it was very tough when you were growing up. this must have changed your life drastically. i can imagine all that pain when you were growing up. all the new places you had to live. all those different people you had to live with. If i got split up from my brother i would be upset even though at times i hate him he still is my brother.
DeleteJustin, this is a thoughtful and personal response. I am impressed with the approach you took to this entry. I, too, feel that love and hatred are not opposites but rather extremes of the same intense emotions. You are very strong for the life you have led and the experiences you have had. Thank you for sharing some of them here.
DeleteThe way friendship or families end happen in so many ways. To me I think they just don't click anymore. People lose that spark in them and they see a whole different person. i have been through a fallen friendship with my neighbor. He is one of those kids who would who got what he wanted when he wanted it. I tried multiple times to be his so called friend. He would be a complete jerk. Lets call him Justin. he was not a trustworthy person. After I was done being friends with him i learned how friendships really collapse. They are based on trustworthiness and dependability. Justin was none of those things. Friendships and Families collapse because of bad people who can’t do their one duty which is being a good friend. Where the hatred begins I believe is when they begin to do the worse, backstab you. When they begin to dislike you because others dislike you. That is where i believe the hatred begins.
ReplyDeleteThere many ways to to resolve conflicts between friends. The number one thing is just talk it out. Not arguing actually just sitting down and talking. You both have to find that one point in time where everything was crappy. Both of you as a team. Remember all the fun you've had together.
This isn't just for friends it is the same way with family. Then you have to talk on how and what make you hate or what bothers you either the things you say. Or the way you act. Hopefully you can make peace with each other because nobody wants to hate anyone. Unless they killed like your cat or something on which i can’t help you with. So in the end friendship are a 2 part deal. You have to give to get and you have to try to be the nicer person.
Chase, thank you for sharing this story. I appreciate your honest response and the way you supplied viable solutions to the problem of hatred. I agree that friendship is a two part deal.
DeleteP.S. I like that your icon is Cat Face. Here is my favorite.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2GbCyp18qM
thanks for the video
Deletei have witnessed manay friendships fall apart some of my very dearest friends. but i do not have hatred towards the. hatred is a word that is often used in a silly/childish way. the deffinition of hatred is someone who expresses extream hate. An example of hatred is the attack of 9/11. in this attack a terriorist alkida bombed the world trade center killing over 3,000 innocent Amecicans. that is a acceptable way of using hatred. the world is not perfect so there will always be hatred. There is really nothing that anayone can do to fix hatred. the only thing we can do is to be strong as a person and not let the little things get under our skins. for example i have seen a friendship break apart over money. a real friendship should not let money get inbetween them. but when people fight that dosent mean that they have hatred between them its not that easy. things need to build up for there to be hatred.
ReplyDeleteI Think hatered starts from jelousey and lies There is hate in every family or relationship but love always comes in the end of that fight or conflict.Because every household is not perfect at all they have their ups and downs . Like my family i was seperated from my mother for a whole year it was the best ever no rules , no bedtime , no eating with the family , money everyday , just if i did my work i was fine that cause conflict between my gaurdian and my mother but my mother was never home so it felt like i was the adult never a child. It was a fued they fought everytime my mom had rights to see me and my mom won the case i lived back with her now i dont even talk to my other family the people i call my father and my real mother it hurts because i looked up to them they had a stable home , had time for me , they listened to me and that was all gone because of jelousey , i think there should never be hate or jelousey or anthing because to this day it kills me im seperated from my family
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