Topic 1: Conflict in Our Culture
Directions: In a comment, respond to one of the prompts below in 300+ typed words. Also be sure to respond to a classmate's comment so that we can keep our classroom conversation going.
Option 1: Most people have witnessed a friendship fall apart, a family divide, or a global tragedy that spawns feuds that last for several decades. Where do you think hatred begins? What measures do you think can be taken to resolve arguments and alleviate hatred? Cite a feud you have witnessed as evidence to support your argument.
Option 2: In his poem "Mending Wall," Robert Frost repeats the old adage "good fences make good neighbors." The characters in the poem have a stone wall--a literal boundary--between their homes. What types of boundaries do you think need to exist to maintain healthy relationships? Cite examples from your friendships and your relationships with family members to support your argument.
Be sure to answer all parts of the question fully. Your comment/response to my prompt should be 300+ words. Your comment/response to a friend should be 50+ words. Your blog entries must be completed by 11:59 pm on October 7, 2012.
Brian Spina
ReplyDeleteMy parents got divorced when I was two it but a big hole in my heart not only for me but my dad. my dad can only see us every other weekend it is hard because it feels like it takes forever. were I think hatred begins is when you do something behind another back in this case cheating. it not only hurts you but others as I got older I realized it hurts much more. it hurts my dad still to this day when I go over his house we laugh and hangout. I don't get that at my moms house. I hope one day my parents wont fight as much. holidays are rough and so are birthdays. hatred is not something you want to be in the middle of. I think you should just live your life full of happiness and love not hatred.
Some days like Mondays are hard for me because that's when I get home from my dads it hurts and I don't want to talk. I wish one day there will not be hatred its not the best thing to have. I also know a friend whose family split apart and it affects him as well but me and him can talk about it and make our self's fell better. me and him don't have hatred and it makes life more fun. I've also witness families fight and split over it. they don't think about what they are losing and what they hurt. I know because my dad lost his motorcycle, house, boat, car, his kids and wife. So just make up don't fight because its not worth it in the long run. Just try to have a great family and choose your wife or girlfriend wisely I know because I don't want to make the same mistake my mom and dad made because I don't want to hurt anyone.
I really enjoyed your writing and i think talking about divorces are good examples of hatred. I am very sorry about your parents being divorced, I undertsand that it is hard. I also believe that the world is a better place without hatred. Lastly, I also think you made a good point when you said to choose your wife or girlfriend wisely because you don't want to hurt anyone. I agree to do the same when i'm older.
DeleteI really liked your writing Brian. I could definitely relate to what happened to you because the same happened to me. I know it is hard to get over it but there is always obstacles in your life and you have to try to avoid them. Very good example of hatred.
DeleteFeel the same way. Good job though. Good detail and everything. Good example of hatred
DeleteGreat stories has a lot of goods things and examples of hatred.You did a good job and it was a interesting story to read.
DeleteI really like your writing and i thing that it was a great example of hatred and I feel the same way about choosing you wife or girlfriend wisely because you don't want to hurt anybody and i would do the same thing when I get older, very good example of hatred.
DeleteThank you for sharing this very introspective and honest story, Brian. I was very moved by your response to this question, and I am inclined to agree that it is good to have a friend to talk about shared experiences with, especially tough ones like this. Thank you for writing such a brave entry.
DeleteBrian this blog is very eye opening to me because my parents are having a very ruff time and i can definately relate to how you are feeling and how this moved you in the future . But all together that blog was absolutely stunning for you to come out like that and share with everybody in our class good job .
DeleteI believe hatred begins when friends or family use actions that they know you don't approve of and that they are falling on the wrong track. The friendship will fall apart because you know what they are doing is wrong and you think that they shouldn't be doing that. Hatred also can begin where someone hurts you in a way of something that is close to you and important. They intrude your privacy and affect you In some way can cause hatred in some manner. If a family member smokes or does drugs you try to help them. If they try to get you to do them you would say no but because they are already addicted it is hard to stop. They will get other people into drugs and then it will cause a feeling of true hatred unless you are an addict of a sort.
ReplyDeleteHate also comes in different types. Some are racist haters that believe Americans are better than African Americans or African Americans that think they are better than Americans. There are also religion and gender hatred. Some people think religion is stupid or unnecessary and it causes hatred. The Israelites went to Egypt and the Egyptians were polytheistic meaning belief in many gods. But the Israelites were monotheistic so they were kicked out of Egypt because Egyptians believed that the pharaoh was a relative to the gods. The Israelites said that the pharaoh is not a relative to the gods and were kicked out of Egypt. These series of events caused hatred between Egyptians and the Israelites. Hatred could also be based on sexual orientation if they are homo-sexual or even bi-sexual. They are discriminated and others hate them and many times hate crimes are commited. These are many of the kinds of hatred in our American society.
Anthony, your reply is well thought out and touches upon hatred sowing its seeds on both a familial and global level. I am impressed with your thought process and how you connected several different sources of hate. Nice work.
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ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed your writing and how you included religon because I could see that as one major reason. I also like how you added about the Israelites and the Egyptians. I think another great reason you had was about the homo-sexuals and bi-sexuals. Really good job it really explains hatred. Also good job on your play today.
DeleteConflicts are nasty things that can start from nothing or sometimes feelings and thoughts held in for a long time. I have personally seen this happen to families, and friends even my own family or my friends. Leaving wounds that cant be healed by any words or time. My best friend and I were pretty competitive towards other when we worked together. One day we wanted to play paintball with his brother and two other friends. Me and my friend were always a team we won match after match after our tenth win we started to loose. Sometimes we would come close but as the game continued we kept getting worse we started to blame one another. Then the gloves came off and we started to yell at each other about who was doing worse and a lot of nonsense things. After a few harsh comments we both stomped off in separate directions. After a day or so we talked and realized it was stupid that a friendship we've had sense we were kids wasn't worth ruining over a silly game. I've see the same happen to another friends family it was a fight about him hanging out with his friends. His family felt he spent to much time away he felt he was around to much for days they gave each other cold shoulders. The acted like enemies but they were still a family I told my friend his family should sit down and talk the problem out. After the talk his family was happy and reunited. Its odd how little conflicts can change peoples perspectives ad how the whole conflict was resolved with one talk. Conflicts are pretty this but they happen no matter who you are sometimes you just have to swallow your pride and talk it out. Conflicts aren't worth the consequences.
ReplyDeleteNice job, William. You wrote in a clear and concise manner and got your point across well. I am inclined to agree with you that communication is key to resolving conflict. It was great of you to share that with your friend so that his family could make amends. Nice job. P.S. Did you respond to a friend?
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About two years ago my parents got divorced. It was tragedy for my brother and I because we did not know how to handle it. I did not know how to face it. I was so depressed, I felt like I was dead. For a few weeks I just felt like crap. All I could think about was my parents getting back together but I knew somewhere, that would never happen. For me, hatred began when my parents got divorced. They always use to fight a lot and this happened for a straight year. I could not take it anymore. I would just go in my room and lock it. It got so annoying and I just did not know how to handle it. In school I started to go down hill with my work. I would not pay attention at all and just think about my parents. I got in trouble a few times but I told the teachers what happened and they understood me. I always use to talk to my teacher because his parents got divorced when he was little too. So I could relate to him a lot. He always use to cheer me up at school and I really enjoyed that.
My mom and I went to a therapist and we talked. The therapist made me really happy. She made me realize that it is a lot better to get divorced and not fight than to stay together and fight constantly. I realized that it is not so bad. I still see my dad every two weekends and life is great. I know it is a little hard to get over it but trust me it is better to be divorced. It took me a while to get over it but I just talked to people and that really helped.
Jason I can relate to this a lot. My parents got divorced too and I felt the same exact way and my grades in school went down hill too. My brothers and sisters didn't know how to handle it either. I totally agree to this. You explained it really well.
DeleteJason, thank you for this personal and introspective response. I was happy to learn more about you through this experience. I agree that talking to people is helpful because it helps you identify and explain your troubles. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
DeleteI can relate a lot as well.. When I was just 7 years old, my parents separated too. i think I was a little too young to understand why they had seperated, but i know now. It was better off for my parents to not get into arguements then constantly fight like you had stated about your parents. I liked how you explained how you had to go to a therapist to help yourself and that takes a lot for just a teenager to overcome.
DeleteWe dislike or despise something or somebody very deeply, it denotes that we hate him or her or we hate something or somebody. Generally When we discourage hatred language that spreads enmity or promotes disharmony among people of different races, languages, religions and castes and it is the proclaimed policy of every web site on the internet, whatever may be the object or purpose of the web site. But sometimes we hate something when we have a strong aversion or dislike for it. Perhaps we are disgusted about something or even at the very sight of it, we are mentally disturbed or a shock wave creeps in us. The very sight of a cockroach or a millipede or a centipede or a strange looking insect or a creature may instill hatred in us, which is a kind of phobia. But they are general in nature and not directed against anything or anyone personally.
ReplyDeleteWhen we proceed to analyze what might be the reasons when a person hates another person in particular or somebody else in general, we arrive at both general and personal reasons. When you are a proclaimed terrorist, people hate you for your policies and terrorist activities. Suppose you are an idealist and wants everything to be done in an ideal way, you may hate people who care a fig for idealism. In other words when you say that means justify the end but when somebody else say that end justifies the means, you differ with them and so hate them.To put it in other words, you cherish values like truth, fairness, morality and straightforwardness and the people you hate have utter disregard for all these principles. Therefore, differences in the way of living, essentially constitutes differences among the people and it creates a deep sense of hatred among the people.
This took me forever to research and type, hope you liked it Ms. Orlowsky
I have witnessed a frienship fall apart, a family divide and a global tragedy that has lasted over a decade. I think hatred begins with misunderstanding,lack of communication and discrimination. I think many arguements can be resolved more so by listening than speaking to get a better understanding of the point of view of the other side. Other ways to resolve arguements and alleviate hatred are compromise, compassion, and knowledge. Information about other people that live in different societies and their values can help to abolish discrimination. However, you can't change other people but you can change how you reacte to them which brings me to the ongoing war in Afganistan because of the terrorist attacks on 9/11/01.
ReplyDeleteFor example, the terrorists that drove the planes into the world trade center buildings did it out of hatred and ignorance. Just because they don't like our way of life or don't understand us does not give them the right to kill thousands of innocent people. Maybe if our countries communicated more openly, there would not have been so much hate and misundertstanding. Maybe there might of never been a 9/11. I don't know for sure but I know hate is evil and I never want to feel that kind of emotion. In addition, I see people fight at school and friendships torn apart over the same things that fuel hatred. Most of the time, I think the fights in our school are just misunderstandings. Lastly, I feel this world would be a much better place if we all just would communicate more, listen to each other, ask questions to find the correct answers and just love instead of hate. As for me,I believe there is way more good in people than there is bad.
i love how you worded this Katlin. this is a very outstanding essay. the example is great. and you are right people should talk more so they see the other persons point of view. in addition i like your whole essay, its very good and worded perfectly. Good job.
DeleteI totally understand the concept about what you were talking about and i definitely agree with your story. This was a really interesting story to read and i can relate to the whole hatred thing.this was good. I also liked all the examples in this.
DeleteKatlin, this is beautifully written and I greatly enjoyed reading it. You have great ideas, and I agree with you that there are more good people than bad people. We just need to take the steps necessary to surround ourselves with them.
DeleteMost people have witnessed a friendship fall apart, a family divide, or a global tragedy that spawns feuds that last for several decades. Where do you think hatred begins? What measures do you think can be taken to resolve arguments and alleviate hatred? Cite a feud you have witnessed as evidence to support your argument.Many people have experienced many issues in life that they either get fix or stop talking to each other.In my life ive seen many people fall apart and stop talking to each. Even though they’ve been friends for years or even since they were born.It amazes me on how people get into fights over simple things in life that they can easily resolve.
ReplyDeleteThey way hatred begins can start in many ways more than one it usually happens when your friend or you does something that hurts the person or says something behind their back. When the person find out about his or her friend saying stuff behind their back it usually starts problems that cause them to argue or fight. This is how I think hatred starts.They’re many ways people can get over hatred.Simply one thing is that you talk to the person and discuss the situation on what's going on and how to resolve the issue in hand.This is probably the best way you can solve an issue without misunderstanding the other person.
There has been many times where I have seen people argue in my life i've seen my brother and his old friend argue and they no longer talked they had a hatred between the two of them until one of the had the nerve to apologize to the other.This is one time that i have seen hatred get formed and destroyed by them making up and became friends again. This is why some people don't like each other in todays times some people don’t like apologizing.
This is what i've known and seen of hatred in my lifetime so far.
Glenn I really agree with your response you can definitely tell that you are well aware with the definition of hatred. I can relate to your response in many ways. There have many situations in my life when I felt the same way you do about hatred. Great response glenn.
DeleteGlenn i really enjoyed reading your response to this essay prompt about hatred. I relate to this response because I've lost friends from them talking about me behind my back. This essay relates to everyone's life because I'm sure everyone did something to loose a friend. I also liked how u said the best way to become friends again is to talk about what happened. Good Job Glenn I enjoyed reading this.
DeleteGlenn, I like that you brought up the issue of pride and its involvement in hatred. I certainly agree that this can fuel hatred, and soon a grudge becomes less about the issue at hand and more about the fear of losing the upper hand. Nice job.
DeleteI myself, believe that hatered begins over the littlest things to the bigest things. Multiple different people get mad over the littlest things or they fight over the littlest things. For example, friends get fight over almost everything many mainly have diagreements. In which these disagreements get out of hand and turn into arguments. And from experiance, arguments ruin many relationships. Physicaly watching a tight relationship fall apart is ahsamed.
ReplyDeleteI have seen a very good relationship fall apart. This relationship fell apart over an idodic reason. It had occured when my brothers friends had gotten into a fight. They gotten into a fight about their trucks. Mike said that his had more horsepower and the other,Jon said his was better for off roading. So when this had happened they both refused to talk to each-other and we had to make both of them happy when we went some where.
This wasn't fun when they fought. But the best part about when they fought was when they finally relized that in the end it wasn't worth it to fight.Mike and Jon are constantly arguing but they work everything out. The reason they always work things out is because everyone always hep everyone out now matter what. And from here on out they had promised not the have disagreements about their trucks or anything else.
I think there are certain measures that can help resolve arguments. An explantaion to resolve an argument can be the fact as if people have an open mind. A mind to where they are okay with people thinking certain things. There are multiple kinds of people that pick on people which causes hatered. For example, the people that "judge" other people. when people judge other people it hurts them sometimes physicaly but mainly mentally.In conclusion, heterd can begin anywhere and everywhere.
Brooke, I wonder...do you think that when an argument seems to erupt over something little that there is usually something big boiling below the surface? Just some food for thought. I enjoyed reading your work.
DeleteFor hatred to start something big has to happen like a people changing or financial problems. Many times relationships end do to lack of money or someone spending all of their money. When I was eight my parents got divorced and I thought that I would never get over it. Now I’ve learned to deal with seeing my dad one a week or sometimes even once a month. Before my parents got divorced my life was all happy and I had a normal life. Soon I noticed that they were arguing more and more and then one day I didn’t see my dad and my mom told me they got divorced. If my family tried a little bit harder to resolve their problems maybe just maybe would I still be living with my dad again and I wouldn’t have to deal with seeing him every once and a while. Sometime I try to think of the positives of what happened. If they didn’t get divorced then I wouldn’t of moved down into Bayville and met all of my friends and be going to this new school. If they didn’t get divorced my life would be totally different. I think of thing happening for the better though so what happens must have been possible a good change in a way.
ReplyDeleteJayson, thank you for writing so bravely about such a personal experience. You have clearly learned by example and know that working to resolve conflict is well worth it. Thank you for sharing your story with us, and I must add that I am happy you are in Bayville because I enjoy having you as a member of our classroom.
DeleteHatred is something nobody wants to experience in life. It all starts when two people disagree with a descision or action somebody makes. Hatred can be simple and easily resolved or it can also ruin many peoples lives. Ive experienced I incident of hatred many times before. For example I experienced a family argument witch is one example of hatred. This was a simple type of hatred when my family was arguing over where were going to on vacation. The way we resolved this was by voting, and it wound up to be Florida. The worst example is when the doctors thought we were abusing my little brother because he was so sick. They tried to separate our family and give him to a better home. They believed we weren’t feeding him because he never gained weight. This was a very serious situation and we were able to luckily find a solution. At one point they were going to take me away from my parents aswell because they thought,if she didn’t feed Derek then she probably don’t feed anyone. Fortunantly I was old enough to speak for myself aware them that I was being fed and so was Derek. We eventually found out the reason Derek was not gaining weight was because he had a disease. He was put on a feeding tube and then began gaining weight. They were very sorry for accusing my parents of child abuse when it was false. They had no right to say my mother was not good enough because of course she is. I would have never let them separate my family. This was a situation of hatred between the doctors and my parents as almost everyday before they found a cure for my little brother. Hatred is something that many people shouldn’t joke around with because it can hurt.
ReplyDeleteMatt, thank you for sharing this story with us. Being separated from your family must have been a terrifying possibility. I am happy to hear that you were able to speak out on your family's behalf and make the situation better. Nice work.
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Period 3
10/7/12
Essay
I read the poem the “Mending Wall by Robert Frost” to understand this assignment better. I think that having fences does make good neighbors. I realize that having a fence gives person privacy; sometimes you don’t need anyone in your business. There is nothing worst than a nosy neighbor. I know this because my parents have been dealing with one for seventeen years. They say she was born with a silver spoon in her mouth. My parents are hard working and our trailers are sometimes loaded with stuff and she would get mad if she could see them. So we put up a privacy fence. So in this case a fence was for privacy. She is still a pain, we just have to ignore her. This gives boundaries, keeps her out of our business. However as long as we own our home and she owns hers there will never be a friendship. It has filtered down from my parents to my generation already. Just like in the poem “He will not go behind his father’s saying, Good fences make good neighbors.”
I also believe that fences don’t need to be materialistic, by this I mean we can make our own boundaries. We have morals and respect for ourselves and others. I have been taught that you should treat others as you want them to treat you. Everyone has different beliefs and opinions on things, I should respect their opinions and beliefs even if I don’t agree with them. We are all alike but very different. So sometimes we need invisible fences.
We don’t have to put up boundaries all the time. Sometimes we just need to realize what’s around us and follow our instincts. If you feel uncomfortable in a situation you should heed your own advice and beware, but there are times you get good instincts. Not everyone is evil. We need to believe in mankind.
I can relate. I have a neighbor in the back who decides to make a lot of noise whenever we have a party in my backyard. He would either mow his lawn or use his leaf blower to blow leaves over the fence.
DeleteX, you have done a great job of capturing literal and figurative boundaries in this response. I was very impressed that you cited the poem and made the extra effort to read it. I agree with you that while we need to protect ourselves, we also need to believe in mankind. I am happy to hear that you do.
DeleteI have a unique situation about boundaries and relationships. I live next door to my grandparents and across the street from my aunt and uncle. Therefore, a few boundaries that I believe need to exist in order to maintain a healthy relationship, is knowing when to stay out of their business.
ReplyDeleteFor instance, we do not butt-in and give our opinion on something that we don’t fully know the details about. If someone is arguing, we know not to bother them. Or, when my cousins get grounded or in trouble, we don’t try to get them out of it. Another example is how my aunt doesn’t mind if we just walk into her house, but my grandma wants us to knock.
A few other things that I can think of that are important boundaries in my family are; we don’t keep track of each other’s everyday lives. We don’t question their visitors, or who they choses to hang out with. When our parents discipline us, no one else gets involved. Between all three houses we all have a key to each one, but we know not to enter unless they ask us to. We know not to park our vehicle’s in each other’s driveways, unless we ask. We discus events ahead of time, so we don’t have events on the same day. We made a sign, that when someone’s blinds are closed; we know not to bother them. My cousins and I also know not to complain to grandma about each other. These are some of the boundaries that my family has developed to stay together.
Shawn, this is a very unique situation! I enjoyed reading about you and your family. I think that the policies that you and your family members have in place are good ones to have. Thank you for sharing!
DeleteI believe that hatred begins when friends or family do something that is wrong and they know that their friends or family won't approve and they are going in the wrong direction .this will make friendship fall apart because the other does not want to go to the same directions . I used to have a friend that he was not a good friend to have because he used drugs and he smoke and one day he told me that if I do all of this things that he does I would be the coolest guy ever he wanted me to do drugs but i say no every time he ask me to try it. i would accept because i know that drugs are really bad for you, drugs can kill you and you get addictive to it and every day you want more and more and then you don't have any money and you start to rob people , drugs will take you to the wrong way you will ruin your life.
ReplyDeleteother place where hatred begins is in a global tragedy an example is the war in Afghanistan which cause the 9/11 attack this attack happen because the people in Afghanistan have been holding their feelings and thoughts for a really long time, when this attack happen nobody like anyone that came from the middle east , the terrorists that drove the planes into the world trade center buildings did it out of hatred and ignorance. Just because they don't like our way of life and by this attack we got so much hated to them but we didn't attack them we hold our feelings .i think if we have a better communications we could settle our problems without fighting ,hate is a strong word and i would never like to have that feeling.
Pablo, I enjoyed reading your entry. I appreciate that you cited a personal experience as well as an example from current events. I am glad that your strong moral code steers you to make the right choices. I also agree with you that better communication would make for happier nations.
DeleteI have witnessed a family fall apart, that family was my family. In May 2011 my parents got divorced. This was really hard on my brothers and sisters, but I think this hurt me the most because seeing my Dad not happy anymore was really terrible and seeing my Mom and Dad fight all the time was even worse. Eventually he did get happy and he now has a girl friend but before it was so sad. I think hatred begins when people have a lot of stress in there lives or they aren't communicating enough. I say this because my family went through so much these past couple years and we all have so much stress and some times it makes us unhappy. My mom had the most stress because she was the one who carried us through it all. She also never had like a guidance counselor so her feelings really built up. After a while she stopped talking to my dad. Then a couple weeks later she wanted a divorce. At the beginning of the divorce they fought all the time and I hated seeing them doing that so did my siblings. They are okay now but they still aren't to nice, but they are civil with eachother which I am really happy about. It's a lot better because I know that they are trying for us. The reason why they are actually nice to eachother is because they did it for there kids, they knew it did really hurt us. I never would of thought my parents would've gotten a divorce, everyone was surprised when they did. Everything is okay now and my family is actually, well almost coming together. After all that has happened to me, I really noticed is that family is all that people need.
ReplyDeleteThank you for bravely sharing your experience, Nick. I enjoyed reading your writing. I am inclined to agree that sometimes hatred evolves from misplaced anger or stress. That is a great observation. You are absolutely right in believing that decreasing your own stress and focusing on being a happy person helps you to treat others with kindness.
DeleteI have witnessed a friendship fall apart, a family divide, or a global tragedy that spawned feuds that lasted for several decades. I think that hatred begins in a person itself and the lack of communication. I also think that it could start from jealousy and judgement. Or maybe even from the misunderstanding along people. I think that to alleviate hatred people need to understand among not just themselves, but also others. Also people need to see the other person's point of view. Hatred could stop if we did not judge people easily. That’s why there is the saying “Don’t Judge A Book By It’s Cover.” Which simply means to not judge a person by its appearance if you do not know the person.
ReplyDeleteAn example I have had is the time I judged a person by her appearance. I said I hated her when i didn't know her at all and because she dressed like a goth. Once i came to the conclusion that I shouldn't be judging others if I don't know them. So, I decided to give the girl a chance and it came up that she was an amazing girl. she’s fun to be around and she’s herself. From that day I learned two lessons and they were to not judge people by their appearance and that hatred begins from judgement. It also begins from jealousy, lack of communication, and the misunderstanding between people.
Karla, what an original answer! Hatred can certainly stem from prejudice. Thank you for bravely sharing that personal experience with us. You were honest and insightful, and it is clear that you had an "aha" moment when getting to know the goth girl. Nice work.
DeleteKarla I really enjoyed reading your answer. I really like how you used the quote “Never judge a book by its cover.” Also I agree that it can form from lack of communication. This was very well written. I can not wait to read what you write next. You did awesome!
DeleteI was had a best friend that i had meet in middle school, and we did a lot together. We hung out all of the time, and we were basically almost like siblings. We had our differences with eachother, and we both had a few things we disliked about eachother. Hatred began when our differences came about us and we turned against eachother. It was just the few things that i didn't like about him, and the few things he didn't like about me. We soon relized that we couldn't keep a friendship because of it. But, before hand, we did try to resolve our problems. We talked to eachother, and we decided to let things goo from the past, and continue our friendsship. Not too long after, things went back to normal meaning the things we didn't like about eachother just keep getiing to us. This could have easily been prevented if my friend didn't do things on purpose to make me made. I was the one that had ended the friendship because of that. And know I am the one that is hated because of it. I'm no bothered at all that my old friend hates me, it keeps me going.. Hatred truely begins between people when there our things that ae done to harm one another, or just simple disagreements, or pet pieves. In my case, it was a few disagreements, and things done to harm one another. It's hard to put back somethings done in the past, but arguements can be prevented easily by agreeing on somethings with eachother to work out the friendship, or even ignoring eachother so the situation doesn't become bigger than it already is. I'm glad that we had ended our friendship, or else we would of just keep getting to eachother,and being bothered. My old friend is entitled to hating me for no reason, but i dont hate anyone. Being a hater is fine, but if thats wht it takes to get things off your shoulder, than let it be.
ReplyDeleteIt’s amazing how hatred can be birthed just as amazing as how love is born because they are so similar. Hatred can be born out of anything love, friendship, religion, even hatred itself. I don’t think I’ve witnessed it first hand, but I know as a fact it can happen, plus I’ve read about in a manga. It’s a very tragic story between two lovers, and two very best friends. This story is from my absolute favorite anime and manga “D.Gray-Man”. Don’t ask why they call it that because even I don’t have the answer, but anyway this story is from the second main character named “Kanda Yuu”. He is my favorite character and not just because he is good looking but because his back story is so tragic and moving and his character is so interesting and funny.
ReplyDeleteWell to start he works for the Black Order, The Order is also a science lab filled with horrible records of human experimenting, and Kanda is one of them along with another unknown character until vol. 20 named “Alma Karma”. Alma and Kanda were part of an experiment called “Second Exorcist”. It’s a process of bringing a person back to life, Kanda has been revived and his memories of his previous life have been erased. They were treated horribly always being called experiments and never being able to be called human beings even though they really are. They didn’t get along at first because Kanda isn’t known for being the friendly type, but they eventually became friends in this really harsh environment. Although the big problem in this situation is that Kanda is slowly starting to get pieces of his memory back he would constantly see visions of a girl, and eventually it started to make him go mad. The Order soon found out and was going to exterminate him as a failed project, but Alma had interfered with it which caused him to get all of his past life memories back. He went on a rampage, and he was going to take suicide along with Kanda, he said “Kanda the humans will never repent for what they have done unless they know that creating us was a mistake so let’s die together; I mean we were already dead to begin with”. Although Kanda still had those confusing memories of that girl running through his head and so he killed Alma saying “I’m sorry Alma but I want to live even if that means destroying you”.
For nine years Kanda has been holding a grudge against the Order, but because the reason he wanted to live was so that he could find out who the girl he saw in his visions is he has been swallowing his hatred. Until he was forced to know the truth when he finds out that Alma isn’t dead, he has only been in a coma for 9 years. By the sudden meeting of two very close friends and Kanda’s memories of what happened nine years ago they were able to awaken Alma who now has a grudge against Kanda for killing him instead of dying with him. This became an all-out battle between them and the results of it were catastrophic. Wahhh DX It’s so sad, but such good story, I must have read that book at least 200 times it was so sad. This is a great example of how hatred can be born out of friend ship and love in a tragic why, but it can happen in a more simple, but stupid way as well. Such as, someone just hating a certain race of people. I don’t remember it very well, but mom says that when I was about 7 years old I came home from school crying because a boy called me a “chink”. He must have something against Asians because that’s how he must have been raised. I usually don’t let racial slurs get to me because I know it only comes out of the mouth of morons and it not worth getting angry over. These days when someone makes fun of me and tries to get me agitated I just pull out a book and walk away.
Hate always begins with some sort of conflict. For example if two people get into arguments a lot hate could eventually form. I believe there are ways around this. One way is if you don’t really like someone just avoid them as much as possible. Another way is to open your mind to new ideas. If you are very stubborn most people many find you annoying which could lead to hatred. A third way is to be nice to everyone. When you nice no one could have a reason to hate you. Also my dad always said it’s better to have many allies then enemies. I also use many of these ways to stop hatred because I don’t like being hated. I would rather be friends with everybody.
ReplyDeleteI once saw hatred break up awesome friendship. It was my two friends. We have been friends for years now. But one day my two friends got into a big fight. They wouldn’t even look at each other. When they were in the same room together you knew it was going to be loud. Then one of them moved to Texas. Now they really can’t stand each other so the move was for the best. I still felt bad thou. I missed the good old times with the three of us just having fun. But I still have to go on with my life but I wish I could do it over again and help stop it from ever happening. So now I plan on making it so nothing like that can ever happen again. I'm doing this by being friends with everyone. So when something like that happens again ill have people there to help solve the problem. Hate always begins with some sort of conflict but with friends to help you can over come it