Topic 1: Conflict in Our Culture
Directions: In a comment, respond to one of the prompts below in 300+ typed words. Also be sure to respond to a classmate's comment so that we can keep our classroom conversation going.
Option 1: Most people have witnessed a friendship fall apart, a family divide, or a global tragedy that spawns feuds that last for several decades. Where do you think hatred begins? What measures do you think can be taken to resolve arguments and alleviate hatred? Cite a feud you have witnessed as evidence to support your argument.
Option 2: In his poem "Mending Wall," Robert Frost repeats the old adage "good fences make good neighbors." The characters in the poem have a stone wall--a literal boundary--between their homes. What types of boundaries do you think need to exist to maintain healthy relationships? Cite examples from your friendships and your relationships with family members to support your argument.
Be sure to answer all parts of the question fully. Your comment/response to my prompt should be 300+ words. Your comment/response to a friend should be 50+ words. Your blog entries must be completed by 11:59 pm on October 7, 2012.
Hatred is a very harsh word. Hatred means the feeling of one who hates intense dislike or extreme aversion or hostility. I have no hatred toward anybody, negativity is my pet peeve. I believe that people should treat everybody that they wanted to be treated. Hostility could kill and cause stress toward people. Hatred starts between best friends a lot for a short time. They could tell a secret to the friend and they can tell other people. Hatred can be cause by untrustworthy friends. Maybe when you play sports you have rivals. Rivals will never have respect for each other, only off the field or court. I think you can resolve hatred by making peace treaties. Or trusses would be more common. You can solve hatred by giving money away. If it's a harsher problem with hatred money isn't always the solution. I remember my friend stole my football gloves and kept them. He lied and said he bought his own gloves the day after I lost them but I didn't believe him. I had proof that he kept them but nobody believed that he took it. He used to be my best friend but I lost all respect for him. Hatred can ruin a friendship and cause despair. Later in my life he admitted that he stole them. I was very frustrated and our friendship grew more and more. His honesty changed my feelings about him. Even though he took them, he had the guts to admit it and that changed my feelings about the kid. He bought me new gloves and they were better then my old ones. Sometimes in life you feel hatred but when your friends are involved give them a chance. Let them change their attitude and see what the outcome would be.
ReplyDeleteIsaiah, thank you for sharing the story of your friendship. Negativity is my pet peeve as well! I enjoy being around positive people, and I am happy to hear that you are one of them. However, I do believe that rivals can respect each other's athletic prowess; they simply have to try their best to win, which prohibits them from forming friendships on the field. I enjoyed reading your blog entry.
DeleteI think hatred is a mean word. I believe it comes from jealousy! When people tend to get jealous they begin to backstab that person by talking about them or even showing negative energy towards him or her. All people should treat their peers respectively. Hate is a harsh and cruel thing, no one should have anyone. Hate can ruin people, and the relationship they had or could have had. Arguments can be stopped by explaining your feelings or opinion in a nicer way than fighting and screaming at each other building hatred. I’ve said many times I hate someone, when I truly don’t. I think that’s a kids first word when they’re upset with someone. I treat and respect everyone the way I would want to be treated and respected. There was a time when me and my friend hated each other over a boy. We just broke up and she started dating him. We had gotten into huge fights, and talked badly about each other. I realized no one should fight over a boy! Friendship is so much more to me than a boy, friends are there to stay. I would never let that happen again. There is many, many ways for someone to grow hate towards someone else. That was my example, which is very common especially in high school. Hatred can be for so many reasons, but I think it develops from jealousy and back stabbing as I said. No starting rumors, and looking at each other equally would defiantly solve at least fifty percent of the problem. Avoid hatred the best way you can it is a harsh, and terrible thing. To hate someone is more energy and time from your day when you can just simply smile and move on for the past.
ReplyDeleteI really liked your essay. I loved your examples about hatred. Your opening lead me to believe that hatred was really mean. Your closing was excelent. I agreed when you said hatred comes from jelousy. I learned a lot from your essay it was great!
DeleteTaylor this is truly an inspirational essay towards the act of hatred and i enjoyed it a lot. I respect you're opinion because i think hatred comes from jealousy as well! You're a really good writer and i learned from this entry.
DeleteTaylor I enjoyed reading your essay I think it was a good interpretation of what Ms. Orlowsky wanted. I also agree with some of the key points in your essay. Good job.
Deletetaylor i really like your essay its was very inspirational. it was very true. i agreed with most of the stuff you said
DeleteAt one point in time, someone has witnessed a family or friendship fall apart which in turn can start feuds between the people. Several decades later, that feud will most likely be over. However, it's not always over after that amount of time. After all the "fuel of the fire" for the feud is hatred most of the time. Hatred towards the other person, a group or an idea is the most prominent reasons for a feud. I think hatred begins when someone or something gets angry at each other. They can get angry about anything. Sometimes it can be a simple misunderstanding about something. The hatred over whatever happened over the feud does more damage to the former friends or family. When someone is in a feud filled with hate they say mean things, things they can't take back most of the time. As a result, there's little to no chance the problem will be fixed.
DeleteDespite everything I just said there is still a way to stop the feud and repair the damage before anymore damage is done. To fix the problem they can talk it over, maturely with no yelling, fighting or insults. In other words they can just sit down and talk it over. Hopefully, they can find common ground and fix the problem if not they shouldn't give up hope. They can still try to repair the damage that was done. This sadly is unpreventable eventually you will have a falling out with someone in your life. The best you can hope for is to repair what can be repaired. Rage can really be devastating in the long run. It can tear anything apart; it can start fights or wars over the stupidest of thing or the most important of things overall rage is pointless.
Taylor, nice job! I think jealousy can definitely play a role in the cultivation of hatred. I am so glad that you and your friend took a step back and revived your friendship. I also think that you are absolutely right about the word "hate." Many times, it is our first inclination to say we "hate" something when in reality, we are simply uncomfortable with it. Nice work.
DeleteDavid, I agree that hatred frequently stems from a misunderstanding. Your writing was thoughtful, clear, and concise. Nice work!
DeleteI think hatred is a very strong word and the actual definition is “a feeling of intense dislike”. I don’t think it’s real when someone tells you to hate someone like if one of your friends don’t like someone so you chose not to like them because that’s your friend and you want to keep them your friend you think “lets both hate him/her” and you have no reason you say hate. It something you say when you honestly dislike the person some people say they hate a person but then they are friends the next day it not real when that happens. I think that some people just use the word to use it. This word is very unnecessary but unless you actually feel it. This is what was born in to everybody, every person in this world was born with hate. It’s our instinct good people even have someone in their lives that they will not like and they will call it hate such as if a person hurts your baby they most likely will not love them but have bad feelings about them they will call it hate and that is real hate I know that if someone touch my baby in the wrong way I will hate them and most likely want to hurt them. Hatred can be something caused by not understanding the problem or not thinking about the other persons point of view. So if you don’t know how they think about the situation you go right to your problem and that’s not what you are supposed to do you have to talk about the situation and see how the other person feels and then most likely you will get over it because you talked it out and a taste of what the other person feels and thinks. If this doesn't work because the person just don’t want to talk to you anymore write them a letter it will not give the person any reason to stop reading like they would so in person they will interrupt you and tension will be built and now you have an agreement. But this is where I think hate comes from how to solve it and how to understand it.
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I like your essay. I also really like your examples about how you said people will say how they hate someone one day and then be friends with them the next. That hatred is really not real it's just frustration towards that person. I also agree with you that everyone is born with hate even good people will hate if angered enough
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DeleteKiara, you made some very interesting points in your response. I agree with your thoughts about friends sharing feelings of hatred; it is easy to hate together because there is strength in numbers, and usually people feed off of each other's emotions. I also love the letter writing idea. It is a simple way to get your feelings and ideas across without becoming angry or violent. Nice work.
DeleteIn life not everything works out as it is suppose to and sometimes thing do work out. It always starts with a disagreement. With disagreement can turn into hate. The biggest things are family divide and global tragedy. Sometimes good thing can turn into a really bad situation but it can be fixed with talking things over or working out the situation. Very many people have witness arguments and just stay out or help with the situation .Global tragedy can result in many different ways, just like presidential debate. They talk about what can make the world a better place. They let the people decide what is better for us Americans. They talk about how they can get other countries to help us out with the problems we are dealing with. And they are trying to fix are dept and how taxes should work. That can help are global tragedy big time It’s all about working things out little by little. If we have people hating us things will not work out things the way we want it to work out. Family divide can turn into a numerous of problems and arguments. Not many family’s are close it could be because of family not likening each other, or just problems with money. Family divide can be a big problem because it can affect the people you care about because if someone if your family hates being around each other and you want to be around another family member and there fighting then there’s going to be more problems in the family. Family’s divide will always be a problem but you can find a way to fix that problem even if it takes some time there should be no hate in family’s no matter what happens.
ReplyDeleteJesse, this response strayed off topic on a few occasions. To better complete your next blog entry, try and answer each question individually. I must add that I appreciate that you brought up the presidential debate...did you watch? It was great!
DeleteA while ago members of my family got into a big argument, and now i am not even aloud to talk to A few people in my family. That is very hard for me because i am close with all my family. Hatred like this and in many other cases stems from a lot of things, Like ones actions toward another, lack of communication, Gossip, lies or even an argument that started from borrowing one of someones personal belongings without asking. The other week my friend started being mean to me, and i had no idea why. this type of hatred can easily be avoided by talking things out, telling the truth, or if something happens that you know someone will get mad about, Tell that person what happened before they find out from someone else, that is how gossip starts. and by the time the gossip gets to that person the facts will be twisted. Its really not that hard
ReplyDeleteto communicate with one another to resolve hatred. But if you are trying to resolve an issue with someone and you know they are gonna turn it into a big fight tell them you are not trying to argue and maybe that person will want to resolve this problem too. hatred is a strong word. to many people hate and for stupid reasons to. life is way to short to hold grudges. hatred is so strong it will consume our soul is we let it and just make people absolutly miserable that is why we should always forgive but never forget.
i think this is a very good summary of aguing but at the end you wrote forgive but never forget i think that the person should for forget because if they dont they dont know if every time the other person walks past them if that subject is going to be in there head also if you wind to argue again that is going to be the first thing the other person will bring up to defend themselves but other wise your artical was very good and i liked you example about your family and im having the same problem so good luck
Deletewell i think forgive but never forget makes sense. like you said in your essay if someone does something severly bad to you, your not gonna forgive them. but if that person did something to you not that bad and your able to forgive them, never forget so that thing they did will never happen again
DeleteVinny, you touched upon several different causes of hatred. I enjoyed reading your work. Nice job!
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"Good fences make good neighbors." I can totally relate! My sister Gwen is 13. Fifteen months younger than me and she is just on top of the world… in her mind! Everything is her way all day, every day! She has some sort of system, wake up, be grumpy and mean, go to school and be miss popular, go home hate the world, and go to our room and watch dumb movies on Netflix on her Ipad. Did I mention we share a room? It’s probably the worst thing of all time. I’m sure if we had different rooms we would be closer possibly but with sharing a room comes sharing a whole lot more. We share our clothes, shoes, parents and everything starts a fight. I may as well be 13 again because she and I are equals and we shouldn't be. I’m the oldest of 4, the Alfa “female” I should have some rights but no. I really don’t know if that’s a good thing for her or a bad thing for me. Maybe I have the same rights as a normal freshman and so does she as an eighth grader or maybe I’m just reliving my rights as an eighth grade that’s in ninth grade. In this quote “good fences make good neighbors” all you have to do is change fences to walls and neighbors to sisters and it would fit my situation perfectly. I don’t even have a small house. Its three stories but my parents have the top floor and there are only three bedrooms on the second. By the way my dad has a huge office with two closets. You couldn't have just put a wall straight down the middle and given me my own room? I guess not. In conclusion I agree with the quote it makes perfect sense in my eyes! I’m sure if anyone dealt with my sister also known as “the devil” you would probably feel the same.
I totally agree, good job Eme.
DeleteEme, your writer's voice really shines in this blog entry! You cracked me up. I feel like most siblings of a similar age need boundaries in place in order to not be at each other's throats; like you, I am just over a year older than my brother, and our teen years were a trying time. I enjoyed reading your entry, and I look forward to your next response. Please try to play nice with your sister!
DeleteEme I agree with you dealing with siblings isn’t easy. Unlike you I am the youngest of three so I have to share everything with my older sister Mellissa, all my clothes, shoes, bathroom and food. Did I mention she is a complete slob? It can get to be annoying and you are totally right maybe if we had some boundaries we wouldn’t fight as much but it does get better when you have time apart because she is in college now so we don’t “share” as much.
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I believe that friendships falling apart, dividing families, and global tragedies can start with just a few things. Such as hatred, jealousy and frustration. Most of us have had an experience like this in the past. I want to talk about how to resolve these types of problems instead of making things worse.
I think jealousy can destroy friendships and special bonds very quickly and I feel that it is easy to become jealous very quickly. For instance if you make a new friend an old friend may get jealous and say your not giving him or her enough attention. Jealousy can also be responsible for destroying more intimate relationships as well. Say a husband meets up with an old friend from high school who happens to be female. His spouse may grow jealous leading to anger and unnecessary arguments. An easy way to not be so jealous is to not over think somethings or being more trustworthy to avoid future problems.
Another thing that may spark anger or hatred in a relationship is frustration. It is very easy to become frustrated over small tedious things that happen over a long period of time. For instance if two countries are fighting over territories the smallest thing one country may do could cause the other start a war. A way to stop frustration from starting problems is to try to release your anger in different ways. Or on the other hand work on the small things that might frustrate someone else.
The last thing I believe can have a negative impact on a friendship or relationship is being over attached. If you are to close to somebody to the point that your presence annoys them. You may be overly attached to that person one way to solve this problems is to just give that person some breathing room.
Those are the reasons why I believe hatred sparks in a friendship relationship or global tragedy, and ways to stop them.
I feel similar about the way negativity can affect a friendship. It's true that someone who's overly attached to someone else should calm down and realize that the other person may not be as obsessed or the person may not even care about you.Other than that you wrote a good essay.
DeleteFred, this is a thoughtful and well-crafted response. You addressed each part of the question in a clear and concise way. I thoroughly enjoyed reading your work. Nice job!
DeleteThere are many people that experience hatred, friendships that fall apart, or global tragedy. People mostly experience hatred. But people wonder though were does hatred come from. Well there are many different places hatred can come from. Sometimes people just naturally just hate people or they just family hate each other and just grow up hated that person or family. Most people hat each other from the way that person acts towards them or other people. Like when you first meet a person you may think you like them but when you actually get to know them you may not like them because you figured out what they are actually like and you may not like that and they keep acting like that so you will probably grow hatred on them. You can also grow hatred on someone when you meet a person for the first time and you introduce that new person to your best friend and then they starts making fun of them for now reason or maybe the reason is that maybe they already know each other or maybe that person just doesn’t like your best friend because the was he/she dresses, talks, specks, there hair or anything else and they just make fun of them and you don’t like it. Then you will start growing hatred on them because you don’t think that is nice you think that is rude and disrespectful. So as you can see there is many ways you can express hatred from someone. You may never know right away that you’re going to hate that person but there is always one reason that you will express hatred on that person. You may not know right away how you started to hate them, but once you sat down and thought about it then you may realize how and why you started hating them.
ReplyDeletei lliked your essay and you are right about everything i feel like you know what you are talking about good job nick
DeleteI agree that taking time to reflect upon why we hate is a good way to begin alleviating that intense emotion. I enjoyed reading your blog. Nice work!
Deletei liked the essay alot good job, i agree with you that many people have experienced hatred
DeleteI've had several groups of friends growing as most people have. There were problems in each one as there is now. A lot of times the problem was some talked behind someone else's back. When that happens the person usually gets mad for the sheer fact that he wont say it to your face. Me, I personally would rather be told if im acting wrong or offensive so i can improve myself. Another way to keep a good friendship is to find a common intrest. If you both like completely different things odds are you wont like hanging around that person. Another major problem I've seen recently with the presidential election coming up was the matter of respecting others opinions. Yes people can be wrong so you can correct them but there is no reason to be mean to someone because they have a different view then you. For example, I personally think Romney will do a better job then Obama as president, although i dont know everything about each one. On the other hand some of my friends think differently then me and bashed me about it. I find stuff like this relatable to my life in many ways. I have a friend who enjoys making fun of one of my friends behind his back which is uncalled for since they have been close friends because they have been neighbors for a long time. The common interest is not as big of a problem in my group of friends though. We do have plenty of our own interests but that go's the same for what we all like. Several of my friends love the show Breaking Bad,as do I, when there are others who refuse to watch it because they find the concept stupid. Although we all find a common interest in watching the show Walking Dead. Finally as I said we all don't agree on who should be the next president but thats to be expected although be do have other disagreements. I find myself in a generally happy friendship.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. I want to be spoken to so I can know if i am doing something wrong or not. It is a good way to keep a good friendship. The election is also a big deal about agreeing or not. I enjoyed reading this essay and agree with your ideas and opinions.
DeleteKyle, I agree that on many occasions, agreeing to disagree on some subjects can help. I enjoyed reading your blog. Thank you for sharing this story with me!
DeleteSometimes there is hate. Hate is a very strong word and can be very harsh. It can come from different things like a disagreement or many other things. Hatred can begin anywhere. Some people might start out as best friends but end up as enemies. Fore example is that two friends get into an argument that both have different opinions on. They then argue and say hateful things and then the hatred begins. It can even occur through families. For myself I have no hatred in my family but others might. It can be resolved. You can talk it out or maybe it can not be fixed. Another thing is that I hate having to do this assignment but there is nothing that can get me to not hate it. The reason being is that it is time consuming and boring but i have to get it done. Also I have seen a friendship fall apart. They were talking behind each others back and then they had an argument. Now the two friends hate each other and they are always at each others neck. They do have the option to resolve the situation. They just choose not to. The hatred there came out of arguing and talking behind their backs. I think they can resolve it just by talking but they just choose not to. In the past I have had arguments with my friends. We got over them and we forgot about the arguments. We had different ways to solve them but at least we do not hate each other anymore. There have been other friends that I do not talk to anymore but we do not hate each other. every once in a while I may talk to them but i do not as much as I used to. In conclusion hate can come from the smallest things but for now we shouldn't hate and we should solve our differences.
ReplyDeleteEric, I am sorry you hate this assignment. Hopefully there will be other assignments on our agenda that you will enjoy.
DeleteI believe the true source of hatred is people. We get into arguments all the time and usually the only thing the have to do with is us. We get into arguments over the silliest things like jealousy, anger or just over nothing. I can account for this because a few years ago my two sisters got into a fight with their friends who also happened to be sisters. The one girl who was my older sister’s friend started to act worse and worse to my sister which led to a huge fight. This fight between my sister and her friend soon led to my other sister Mellissa and her friend (my other sister’s friend’s sister) to get in to an argument. At the end of the fighting it turned out that both of my sisters lost their best friends over a silly argument. This shows how one mans actions can eventually led to hatred between two or even more than two people. I have also seen my families’ relationship fall apart but not through verbal fighting or anything. When I was in second grade I moved to Florida and while I lived there my two aunts, cousins, and grandparents all moved to North Carolina. When I moved back we lost contact and the relationship soon feel apart. This may not be hatred between us but there is a kind of sadness because I never talk to or see any of them. So as you can see there is more than just one way that we can reach hatred towards others but hopefully not many of us have to deal with hatred up close and personal.
ReplyDeleteThe word hatred is strong word. Loathing a person can happen in many ways. I think hatred happens with a common conflict of arguing or not agreeing. These conflicts happen between friends, family , and globally all the time. Global hatred can be between different countries around the world. This usually ends up in war. But hatred is nothing more then a strong dislike of somebody. I think that hatred is pointless and gets you no where. Hating somebody wastes your time as well as the other persons trying to fix it. Simply by not hating the person and being forgiving can solve the problem. Another solution to this hatred problem is to talk about to see how each other feels and solve it. As the type of person I am I don't take the time to hate, I pick my friends wisely so I don't end up hating. Just recently me and my friend stopped talking. This is just because now we are in high school our lives have changed. The kind of people me and him are we didn't hate each other just grew apart. To solve this problem we passed each other in the hallway and started talking. Ended up that we became friends again. The lesson I learned in this experience is that just talking about it helps a lot. I have also witnessed many other situations like my own. These problems have been solved by just forgiving the person. Me personally I think that just forgiving the person is the best way for solving hatred. Solving a hatred in war is extremely hard if someone doesn't win. Mostly it ends with a agreement but the hatred never goes away. Hatred is a strong word to use. It can also be solved in a few ways.
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